- Abusers are very good at making excuses for the inexcusable. They will blame their abusive and violent behavior on a bad childhood, a bad day, and even on the victims of their abuse.
- Abusers show that they lost control because they were so angry and they will make women realize it is their fault.
- He will commonly shift the responsibility on to you: Somehow, his violent and abusive behavior is your fault.
- Your abusive partner may minimize the abuse or deny that it occurred.
- Abuser will use tactics to make you feel bad about yourself or consider you defective in some way.
- Abuser will erode your self-esteem and make you realize you’re worthless and that no one else will want you so you accept the abuse as your fate.
- They provoke women for a reaction, then claim it as evidence of mental instability, that implies it’s the victim who is at fault.
Perpetrators who can justify their behaviors are at increased risk for future perpetration.
